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What To Do When You’re Bored of Your Marriage

Marriage is far from easy. The complexities of sharing your space with another person, merging your finances, making important life decisions, and solving everyday challenges can put a lot of strain on a relationship. Even if you and your spouse work well together and can handle everything that life throws your way, there’s another challenge that all couples should be prepared to contend with — marital boredom. Read on to learn more about what to do when you’re bored of your marriage, and contact Blair Wellness Group to work with a clinically licensed psychologist in Beverly Hills.

Adjust Your Perspective

When you’re feeling bored with your marriage, it can make you feel uneasy about your relationship as a whole. Marital boredom makes you long for the ‘good old days’ when your relationship was new and exciting. As you search for explanations for your new-found dissatisfaction, it’s natural to turn the spotlight on any perceived negative aspects of your relationship. Before you go down that road, it’s important to understand that boredom is a normal part of marriage that all couples have to contend with. All marriages start at a highpoint, so a decline in relationship satisfaction is inevitable. When you accept this reality, it’s much easier for you and your spouse to start working towards solutions.

Be Honest About Your Own Struggles

Once you’ve realized that occasional boredom is a normal part of marriage and not a catastrophe, you need to be honest about your own personal struggles. Oftentimes, being bored with your partner is a reflection of being dissatisfied with yourself. Take a step back, assess your feelings regarding your life outside of your relationship, and look for opportunities for personal growth. Could you be doing more to cultivate a happy life for yourself? Do you need to find more fulfilling friendships, better ways to engage with your work, or new learning opportunities to expand your knowledge and world-view? Working on yourself can give you a renewed sense of purpose and inject vitality into your marriage.

Create Opportunities for Positive Interactions

Yes, we are talking about making more time for date nights. However, if you’re bored with your marriage, you shouldn’t fall back on the same old stand-bys that worked earlier in your relationship. If there’s one thing that all experienced marriage psychologist can agree on, it’s that couples should make an effort to try new things together. New experiences are vessels for personal growth, and partaking in new adventures with your spouse is a great way to grow closer together. Take a dance or cooking class together, choose some new travel destinations, or mix up your sexual routine. You should also look for ways to restructure your daily routine so that you can spend more time connecting with your partner. This can be as simple as getting up thirty minutes earlier and sharing a cup of coffee together. The key is to find more opportunities where you can enjoy each other’s company.

Work With a Clinically Licensed Psychologist

Many people believe that working with a clinically licensed psychologist should be reserved for times of crisis, but that is far from the truth. Working with a clinically licensed psychologist can provide you and your spouse with a safe space where you can express your concerns and receive professional guidance about how to address them as a team. If you aren’t ready to attend treatment sessions with your partner, scheduling an individual appointment with a relationship psychologist is a great place to start. Working with a relationship psychologist can help you identify opportunities for growth in your own life and give you the tools you need to address marital boredom head-on.

Occasional boredom is an inevitable part of any marriage, but there are many ways that you can snap out of these dry spells and bring excitement, love, and purpose back into your relationship. Blair Wellness Group is the premier provider of relationship treatment and marriage counseling in Beverly Hills. Visit our website to learn more about how we can serve  you, and contact us today to schedule an appointment!

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